Proverbs 13:12 (Message) – “Unrelenting disappointment leaves you heartsick, but a sudden good break can turn a life around.”
We’ve all heard the expression “It’s better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all”, right? But is it true?
Each of us has desires, secret or publicly spoken of that drive us. Some of them we can hold on to for years if not a lifetime. At the same time, most, if not all of us have had dreams and desires crushed by life, too.
Love is certainly one of them. With slightly less than 40% of marriages ending in divorce, there is certainly evidence that where love once existed, there is now something less. But I believe most marriages begin with a desire for unconditional love that lasts.
I’m sure that you, like me have met plenty of people who loved, lost and lament having loved at all. For a moment, think of those in your life who were divorced at some point. When the tell the story, do they focus on the good times or only the bad ones?
Business and work are places where many dreams and desires reside. Whether it’s hoping for a great, fulfilling career or a business that will one day make you financially free or even one that leaves its mark on society – lots of desires live there.
When it doesn’t work as hoped, many are crushed. Some never recover. No matter what, lessons were learned, skills were improved and relationships were established. Which then should we base our story on?
Many years ago I learned that what ever I chose to focus on was expanding. If I focused on my problems, it was a virtual certainty that I’d get more of them. But if I chose to focus on the good things I got more good things as a result.
And I think that’s what Solomon was trying to tell us in his Proverb above. He was reminding us that problems come and problems go. To FOCUS on them (a conscious choice) would make us sick.
To choose instead to focus on the lessons learned, the relationships formed and the opportunities not yet explored leaves us in a position to get a “good break”. And that break could be the one to turn our lives around.